Mr. Perfect Does Not Exist!

The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdoes but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.

Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.

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The Advantages of Online Dating for Women

In the past, i.e. the 1990’s, online dating was a brand new idea. Unlike today, most people did not own PC’s or even have access to the internet. Times have changed. Online dating is not only IN the mainstream, it IS the mainstream.

There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for “the one”.

If you don’t believe me, just ask your friends in the “real” world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:

(1) You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.

(2) You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for you.

(3) The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

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Nice Girls Do It, Too!

It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.

Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?

Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home….do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.

It works. It really does work if you are willing to do the right things. Write a profile that grabs attention, post recent pictures of yourself, be fun and interesting while chatting with the men you meet on line, answering emails promptly and being on time for a pre-arranged online meeting.

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Online Dating For Single Men

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends. You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

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Bachelorette Party Planning - What to Do and Not to Do.

Are you a maid of honor trying to plan the perfect bachelorette party for your best friend? If so, there are a few key rules to help make sure that your bachelorette party is her night to remember, not a nightmare to forget!

First, don’t wait until the last minute to make your plans. There are so many events surrounding a wedding that you have to pick a date well in advance for the bachelorette party. Do plan your event about two months in advance. That will ensure that all the bridesmaids can agree on a date. Plus, you need sufficient time to choose the venue for the party, plan any entertainment and transportation, and otherwise get ready for bachelorette party fun!

Next, once you are at the party, don’t drink too heavily at the beginning of the night, and try to keep an eye on the other girls so that they don’t overdo it up front either. If you are drinking during the bachelorette party, do instruct the group to pace their drinking. Have snack breaks at periods throughout the night to avoid wicked hangovers and anyone throwing up, which puts a real damper on a bachelorette party!

To keep the girls drinking under control at the bachelorette party, do have a sensible dinner before the party commences. Don’t over indulge at dinner which will slow you down the rest of the night, but also bear in mind that you shouldn’t drink on an empty stomach. If the party starts with dinner, all the girls will be ready to out afterwards. Another common bachelorette party problem is arriving late for your plans. Do set a start time ahead of when you actually need to be at, say, dinner reservations. Therefore, even latecomer girls will be on time for dinner and you can get to all the bars and clubs you want to in a timely manner.

Next, don’t let guests sway the plans that are already in place. It is OK to tell girls that this is not a party about them, but as a bachelorette party is all about the bride. Do feel free to remind your guests that whatever you have planned is “what the bride wants,” but make sure that that is true, and that YOU aren’t dismissing the bride’s wishes!

Remember that planning a bachelorette party is not like just any other girl’s night out. It is a festive, but special, event that deserves planning greater than selecting a location. Make sure that you have plotted out bars and clubs that will be bachelorette friendly, and scope out drink specials too. Make sure you take into account that you will be taking a large group with you everywhere you go that night, so make sure your locations can accommodate the group. No matter what the plans for the bachelorette party night include, do be sensitive to the bride. If she isn’t having a good time, change the location, or listen to her when she says she is ready to call it a night. Don’t hold on to your plans so tightly that the bachelorette party isn’t fun for the bride anymore. Remember that it is her night, and you want it to be a special memory for her.

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Online Dating For the Single 30 Something Woman

Life isn’t fair. Men get all the breaks. You’ve devoted all of your 20’s to getting your career off the ground. Not that you haven’t been dating…you have, but not seriously. Now here you are…30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight. You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have a precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or its lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys…some of them…but none of them are your soul mate. What’s a girl to do?

Consider online dating. You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that “someone” that will be right for you. Maybe he will live in the same city you do…maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

“Is online dating safe”, you ask. “Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdoes in assorted shapes and sizes?” the answer is, no they aren’t. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same caution that you would when meeting any stranger. Don’t give your real name, address or phone number until you feel safe doing so. Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Give it a try…Mr. Right might be a few mouse clicks away.

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Having Memorable Dating Experiences Whether your dating is going to progress to being serious or not, whether love will blossom from it or whether you are even dating more than one person, there is always the desire for all dates to be memorable. That can happen by the location of the date, the activity and the mood that you and your date are in. When romantic sparks fly on a dinner date, it likely can lead to a simple connection such as holding hands. That contact between you and your date is often a signal of romance about to flare on a date. Romance can happen through a glance and even a slight touch. But when there is touch or other longer physical connection the heat and warmth that you and your date feel can then pass between you and become shared, giving life to the chemistry or connection and magic that exists when you are in each other’s presence. A dinner date is one of the common dating activities that often create memorable dating experiences. Part of the reason for that is because you and your date can have a say in going to a restaurant with wonderful décor and lighting, good food and good service. All those factors must be present for the mood to be right and for the environment to feel magically romantic for you and your date. With subdued lighting and a pleasant ambience, it will seem as if even the food tastes better. The combination of all those factors, along with the right background music will put you and your date at ease and if you both are in the right frame of mind, you will feel that magic of romance. A connection and the resulting romantic feeling from holding hands on a date can also occur while you are watching a movie and even during a non-activity such as watching a beautiful sunset. In a movie, the subject matter, scenes and dialog of the movie can be powerful in evoking the reality of romance between two movie-goers. What happens then is that more than just being entertaining, the movie actually makes the dating couple feel as if they are transplanted into the scene and whatever is being experienced on the screen is also happening to them, or, could actually occur. Going on a walk together for a date can also cause romantic sparks. Maybe it’s the relaxing nature of the walk, or again, maybe it could be the always beautiful aspect of nature and being surrounded by it, that enhances the presence of romance on such a date. And if the walk involves a beautiful sunset, that also will evoke a very strong feeling of romance. Any of these dating experiences can also be made more memorable if you and your date share a first, such as have a first kiss. You could also share a first experience such as telling each other something very special, or confiding in each other by revealing some very personal information. Those first actions will mark a milestone in your dating and will be moments that you will remember always with fondness and will also cherish. Whenever firsts are done during dating, they represent small steps in the growth and development of the relationship. So they are also small triumphs to celebrate the fact that your dating experience is progressing on a positive path and that you and your date are having a good time. While you and your date can hope for and will even plan a romantic date, it often happens coincidentally and sometimes when you least expect it. That’s why it’s important that when you are together, you maintain a positive and upbeat mood so that if the magic or romance should be in the air, you both will be ready and receptive to it, and will have a memorable dating experience.

Do you feel like your lovemaking is getting a little stale? You’re not alone.
Like you, I noticed that my spouse and I weren’t making love as often as we
used to.
And when we did make love, it was just the same old stuff we always did.

Oprah Love Expert Michael
Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your
lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To
read more, visit: 500
Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

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A Woman’s “Don’ts” of Online Dating
There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man.  These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him. 

While chatting online or by email do not write your life story.  His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair.  Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details…then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks.  For instance:  If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them.  He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has.  For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him.   Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn’t know when to shut up or how to listen. 

Do you feel like your lovemaking is getting a little stale? You’re not alone.
Like you, I noticed that my spouse and I weren’t making love as often as we
used to.
And when we did make love, it was just the same old stuff we always did.

Oprah Love Expert Michael
Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your
lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To
read more, visit: 500
Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

Never, ever, EVER lie.  I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later.  Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles.  That is a huge mistake.  If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing.  So, just be honest.  There is someone out there who will like you…even come to love you…for exactly the person you are. 

Don’t be too eager.  It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off.  They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest.  I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”.  I mean, don’t push for a face-to-face meeting.  Don’t email them or IM them too frequently.  Play it safe and play it cool.

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 What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?
The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.

(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

Do you feel like your lovemaking is getting a little stale? You’re not alone.
  Like you, I noticed that my spouse and I weren’t making love as often as we
  used to.
  And when we did make love, it was just the same old stuff we always did.

Oprah Love Expert Michael
  Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your
  lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To
  read more, visit: 500
  Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

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Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for women of all ages. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.

You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble. 
 When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.

Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.

Do you feel like your lovemaking is getting a little stale? You’re not alone. Like you, I noticed that my spouse and I weren’t making love as often as we used to. And when we did make love, it was just the same old stuff we always did.

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

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